How does one know when enough is enough and its time to move onto another dream, another idea? Based on my experiences in goal attainment thus far, I would say if the burning desire far outweighs any inkling to quit, you have to keep going. Dig deep and insulate yourself from all the negative opinions by believing in yourself. Fire up your grit and persistence, go for gold!
Another very important lesson I’ve learned along the way is to be patient and know when to strike.
“Patience is power. Patience is not an absence of action; rather it is “timing” it waits on the right time to act, for the right principles and in the right way.” ― Fulton J. Sheen
Find that one thing that is unique about you and embrace it, it’s what makes you, you.
Too often we want to conform to what society tells us we should do or be but you should only do so if and when it aligns with your goals, values and beliefs. Challenge the status quo people, you are entitled to it.
Be grateful there is only one you……there wasn’t one before and there won’t be one after…there is only one Lilianna Kovacevic and that is downright cool with me!
A great way to celebrate ‘you’ is to put up pictures or accolades you received over the years which brought you the joy, happiness and confidence you might be lacking right now. Go back to those moments to draw inspiration for your next venture. These are your affirmations that you can achieve your goals no matter what the setbacks might be.
Here’s to celebrating more of you and less of everyone else.
Wishing you all a great week!
Whether you are a parent, teacher or manager what makes you an effective leader is your ability to truly engage, collaborate and influence. Do this and the discretionary effort will follow as a result of trust, good rapport and walking your talk e.g. achieving a mutual agreed goal.
The only way I knew how to deal with this dreaded process of ‘letting go’ was to write myself a “Dear Life” letter. This is for all of you out there who today (yes tomorrow is another day) are facing the same challenge as me…..STAYING POSITIVE
Thank you for the journey so far. I’ve learned a hell of a lot in my 40 years and can safely say that people will undoubtedly let you down and equally surprise you too!
Whilst I’m grateful for the diversity of people, I do wish we invested more time treating each other with respect and dignity. Ok I get it we don’t live in a perfect world….I’ve certainly had my fair share of ups and downs and I’m sure I’ve pissed a few people off along my journey.
Now to everyone out there that says…don’t let it get to you, stay positive….do me a great big favour and let me have my moment. I want to be angry, I want the world to know I’m friggin pissed off BUT I also want the world to know that I take full responsibility for where my life has taken me so far.
Yes I have failed but I have equally achieved. I’ve lost money, I’ve gained money. I’ve been let down, hell I’ve let people down too. I will not let anger get in the way of my dreams. I will not give up on my dreams and I will not make excuses for not living my dream.
I will continue to BELIEVE that anything is possible. More importantly, that I can & will make it happen! And to all the negative people out there, please stay out of my way!
Here are some useful tips to ensure you shine for the big judgment day:
- Invest the time in your performance review. You need to be well prepared. Take the time to reflect on the highs and the lows as they are equally important for your development going forward.
- Stay calm, don’t allow your boss to throw you off line….remain professional by showing great poise and integrity.
- Speak with confidence and conviction about any aspect you wrote down in your review.
- Ensure there is enough two-way dialogue….remember it’s not just about you getting feedback but also you asking questions. Be sure to seek examples from your boss on where they thought you were a strong performer and visa-versa. This ensures transparency and avoids ambiguity.
- Don’t be afraid to challenge an opinion and/or judgment, especially if you have ample material to back yourself up.
- Don’t forget to seek independent feedback from both internal and external stakeholders as this will back up all the positive work you have done throughout the year as well as corroborate your strengths.
- Make sure you are aware of your weaknesses so that you are well prepared to counteract these against your strengths.
Arming yourself with the right information is a great way to boost your confidence and ensure you get treated fairly.
For example, by focusing on facts such as quoting a section of an Act (a statistic, credible report and/or result) is going to get you a lot more attention than focusing on a truth about a matter. Whilst there is absolutely nothing wrong with a truth, the downfall is that they are raw and emotional, which leave you vulnerable to others perception of your truth. By sticking to cold hard facts, you are less likely to draw too much emotion and allow you to focus on the real issue at hand.
To give a real life example, employee x got fired for pushing his luck with the boss (truth) or employee x got fired for breaching section x of the Fair Work Act (fact).
Now I’m not suggesting be a robot, but once armed with information, know when to pick your moments and when to use a fact over a truth and allow your confidence to shine!